Archive for January, 2015

Be Your Own Wingman

Last night I was invited to a party hosted by a co-worker I kind of know. Since I knew I wasn’t going to know anyone else there, I asked a couple of my friends if they would be my wingmen for the night. Sadly they were not interested in going out, so I found myself sitting in my robe debating whether to put clothes on or to just bail on her.

I wasn’t sure if I was going to have a good time, because I was scared that I would have no one to talk to. I kept thinking what if her friends are boring and debating whether it would be wasted effort.

I ended up deciding that I needed to not be lame and if I really wasn’t feeling it, I could skip out early.

Once I got there and started introducing myself to people, I was happy I stepped out of my comfort zone. I met a bunch of new people with different connections to things that I’m interested in, who will probably benefit my future. I was having so much fun socializing that I stayed out later than planned but it was worth it.

I’m not telling you this story for a pat on the back. I’m trying to stress that sometimes we need to step out of our comfort zone and go places alone. You never know what kind of opportunities will come from them, but nothing will happen without you first putting yourself out there.

Since I’m new to this area and don’t know many people, I have been joining groups to help me meet people. I joined a bible study, young professionals art group, and am attending fitness classes.

It’s not about the specific event or group of people, but being exposed. You never know who or what God will bring into your life, but you won’t find out unless you let him.

Have a great week and do something out of character!

Verse of the Moment

I was doing my daily Bible reading and this verse spoke to me. I know this is what God has called me to do.


What Were You Made For?

I’m sitting at service yesterday and the pastor creates a 4 quadrant chart with our interests and abilities on the X and Y axis. He explained that most people swing between wishing they had the ability to do something they liked and begrudgingly doing the stuff they have no interest in but can do. We never seem to find the true happiness of using our gifts to do things that we’re truly interested in.

If I apply that to my life, I am on a career path where I have the ability to be successful, but don’t really have the interest to want to do it forever. I studied what I’m really interested in but don’t have the true ability to be successful because of my lack of technical skills or connections. So now I have to do serious inner searching to decide what exactly my gifts are that I could use to fulfill my purpose on earth?

We all have this purpose. None of us are here on accident so now it’s just determining how you’re going to use this to improve the world.

I think I have pin pointed what my gift and purpose is. Now the goal is to just keep up the motivation and not waste any time enacting it. I’d rather be happy being who I am in this world than running around trying to please other people or living the way I’m told to. As Dr. Seuss told us

“Today You are You. That is Truer that True. There in No One Alive who is Youer than You.”

Make that your motto for today and always. Why waste time being other people, when you get to be you.

If you are interested in watching the sermon, you can watch it here. Maybe it will give you insight too.

Stop talking and Make Movements

You know when you wake up and have a great idea? Then you run off and tell all of your friends about this amazing idea. Talk about how you’re going to implement it. Maybe you even start the beginning stage and then suddenly you get busy. There are other things going on. You talk yourself out of this great idea because of some unforeseen fear. Now that amazing idea has just become a distant memory.


You don’t need more money. You don’t need more connections. You don’t need anything that you don’t already have. You have the idea.

Things don’t make movements, Movements make things.

I’m going to start taking my own advice and do just that. Working on the movement. As one of my career changes, I was a substitute teacher. As I’m sure anyone with any connection to children, or memory of their school years, can relate, there are bullies. Some of them are worse than others, but either way you have children that are not comfortable in what should be a safe environment. Especially nowadays where everything is digital, which brings the bullying out of the classroom into every aspect of this child’s life.

I can’t stand bullying!! So I’m going to start a movement to help make it less appeasing to children. If it’s not cool to bully, maybe we won’t have as many. If kids understand other children’s perspectives, maybe we can produce a more understanding generation.